Congratulations you’ve just got engaged now’s the time to pick your bridesmaids, right?… Well actually you might want to think twice before rushing into asking anyone, because once you have asked, it’s becomes very difficult to take back. Trust me I know how easy it is to get caught up in all the excitement and start picking out bridesmaids left, right and center. I know what it feels like to be a bridesmaid that got dumped and I also had the unfortunate task of having to let my own bridesmaids down when my first engagement ended, so I like to think I’m pretty clued up on this area? Or not, dependant on which way you look at it?
This time round I have taken a very different approach, in that I haven’t asked anyone? That’s not saying I won’t, but until I am 100% sure of a date, a venue and everything else, I won’t be asking anyone to be my bridesmaid.
Luckily, I haven’t had to succumb to any family politics as I come from a family of boys and so does Mr T, so there will be no awkward decisions to make over sisters and in-laws, however I am still finding it a difficult decision. For me the most important thing is to be surrounded by people I love, those I couldn’t imagine spending my day without, friends that will be there to tell me how amazing I look on the morning of my wedding and still be there telling me that in 10, 20 years time. I want to look back on my wedding photos and still be able to call these girls my closest friends, my girl gang!
Of course you will also want to choose people that will be able to help you in the lead up to the wedding, the maid of honour for example is generally the a bride’s wing woman – she is expected to plan hen parties, bridal showers, help with wedding details like choosing a dress and helping out with any DIY, as well coordinate the rest of the bridesmaids, who will also be expected to help out with tasks when needed. Of course, if your best friend is a dude or you’re particularly close to your bro, why not have them take on the role? They could be your man of honour, bridesman, brides dude the choice is yours?
Before choosing your bridal party think about how much of role you would expect them to play in your big day? How will this affect their own personal commitments, i.e work, kids? Will you have enough budget to pay for dresses, makeup, bouquets etc. If not, would you feel comfortable asking them to pay for themselves. If they couldn’t would you still be able to afford to pay and not take it personally?Details