12 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR WEDDING MORE YOU – WITH ADVICE FROM OUR PREVIOUS BRIDES!
One of the things we are often asked is how to make a wedding more personalized. Now for us that seems like an insanely simple answer, yet that is because we spend almost every waking moment being creative, for us adding personality is a fun challenge. However, for others the idea of adding a personal touch sounds more complicated, especially as the word DIY usually finds its way into the same sentence.
Although I agree crafting personal touches can add a little something unique, it isn’t the only way to make your wedding more you. So we have listed our top 12 original ideas, using tried and tested advice from our previous ‘real brides’. Enjoy!
Write Your Own Vows
“We wrote our own vows in secret, only consulting on the maximum length. No-one was more surprised than us, that we had picked out the same anecdotes from our relationship to highlight. I was very close to tears and it just cemented the knowledge that we were meant to be together. We also wrote our ring exchange based on our wonderful experience of making our rings in Dorset at Flux ‘n Flame jewellery school.”
Make Your Outfits Work For You
“Ronnie chose the groomsmen outfits based on his own quirky style. Knee socks are a Ronnie staple! We knew that the only way Ronnie could truly enjoy our day was if he got to experience it in his own version of dressed up. It was because of the outfit choice that we decided on the color scheme, which ended up morphing into the theme of the wedding, I even had a friend add a rainbow tulle petticoat to my dress. Multicolor and mutual weirdness sprung from who we are! We wanted our guests to feel like they were celebrating us in our way, just as we are!”
Drive to the Ceremony Together
“One of my favorite parts of the day was the drive to our venue. The Groom and I drove together, and had a sing-along to one of our favorite bands to get out some nerves.”
Choose Your Own Dancing Tunes
“We planned all of the music ourselves. We are both huge music lovers and we didn’t feel happy paying a generic DJ to play the top 40 for us so we designed playlists on Spotify for each part of the wedding, even the order the songs would play in so they faded into each other correctly. The music was a real labour of love and we will treasure those playlists forever.”
Get Your Craft On
“Little costs really add up so stick to a budget. It is probably one of the biggest days of your life but it is only one day and you don’t want to be paying it off for the rest of you life!!! Call in favours from friends and family and never underestimate how much money you can save by making things.”
Eat What You Want to Eat!
“My husband is vegan so it was a no-brainer to have a vegan wedding. The food was amazing! I had many guests who were initially worried about the wedding being vegan but after they said it was the best food they had ever had!”
Make it Personal
“So often, weddings become exercises in pleasing other people, but they shouldn’t be. This is the one, single day in the whole of your life that is for the two of you, so do it your way.”
Use Your Imagination
“I have a very peculiar imagination and as soon as we were engaged I had a bizarre scrapbook in my mind; it included images of a forgotten library in a magical darkened 1930s’ wood all underneath a canvas of bright moonlight and stars – with maybe a dash of Jane Eyre. Of course, trying to explain this to family and friends understandably raised eyebrows…”
Start With a Blank Canvas
“Already being married gave us a more laid back approach to an English ceremony. I’d seen a number of venues but when my friend suggested using one of his unused barns I was so excited about the possibilities. It allowed us to have full control over the decoration and style of the wedding. I wanted it to be rustic but still elegant with an English charm.”
Choose Your Favourites
“Think about your favourite things, and try to incorporate them into the day – we had a buffet-type spread of all our favourite puddings, including trays of butterscotch schnapps and baileys shooters – or ‘cocksucking cowboys’, as they are technically known! (Watching my husbands grandma reading the little sign saying what they were was priceless – even better was her chugging down more than one)”
“We eliminated a lot of the stressful planning involved such as seating charts and bridal parties and chose to go with a cocktail party to keep things light and fun.”
Do It Together!
“Our DIY elements were actually “DIT” thanks to the generous contributions of so many. One detail I loved was we asked guests to share a favorite quote about love or marriage on their RSVP cards–then our wedding party each chose one to read aloud at the ceremony, and we scattered all the other cards around the reception tables.”
What about you? What advice would you give to couples looking to add a certain je ne sais quoi?