10 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO HELP PLAN YOUR WEDDING BETTER
Do you feel so overwhelmed with planning your wedding that you feel like your not moving forward as quickly or as efficiently as you would like to be? You’re not alone! Planning a wedding is an epic task and it can be so hard to get started when your so overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done, but using the big day as your motivation and our list of questions, we can help you take the first steps in planning the best day of your lives!
1. What will be the most important aspects of my wedding day?
Knowing what aspects of the day will be most important to you will seriously help you plan your spend and give you an idea of what you will need to budget. If for example you really want a videographer to capture the day they you know to set aside £1-£2k for this service. If you discover that this will leave you short for money in a few other areas, you can then look at the items that were at the bottom of your list and decide whether or not these are really worth having in order to free the extra money for the things you really want.
2. When do I want to get married?
Setting a date is a key detail. You will need to know this for every aspect of the wedding whether it be for finding a venue, booking the caterers even when buying a dress as designers will need to know when any alterations will need to be completed by. If your struggling start by narrowing down the year and month, then pick a few dates within that month that would work for you and go from there. Trust me, once this is decided you will be well on your way to planning your wedding.
3. What is my budget?
Deciding on your budget is something I have spoke about here many times before. I cannot emphasize how important it is to create a budget and even more important to not lose sight of it.
4. What do I plan to get done in 6 months, 9 months, a year?
It’s easy to forget that Rome wasn’t built in a day and the same goes for planning a wedding. It doesn’t (usually) just happen over night. Set yourself realistic goals in the next 12 months I will….. In the next 9 months I will… We created a handy little checklist to help with this which you can download here.
5. What type of decor do I want at our wedding? Will there be a colour palette or theme?
You might have a long ol’ list or Pinterest boards full with ideas for your wedding but have you really taken the time to a.) decide if you really want them and b.) Are they going to be realistic? It’s no good deciding you want to a clean minimalist feel if you want to book a stately home or a festival wedding in the midst of an British winter. List a few of your favourite ideas and chat them over with your venue and other suppliers to see if they can be realistically incorporated in some way.
6. Do I have a back up plan?
Planning a wedding can be a stressful experience for some and unfortunately there are times when things can go wrong. A supplier might have to pull out at the last minute or you might find your dress doesn’t quite fit how it was supposed to? Having a back up plan is crucial and will certainly help reduce your anxiety levels should something not go to plan on the day.
7. How will I make sure everything is done in time?
Have you taken on too much? Are you running out of time? Forgot to confirm something at the last minute? To make sure none of these things happen it’s important to try and split task between you and your other half. You could also rope in the help of other people such as family and friends. If you have a good support system assigned from the very beginning you should be able to find just the right balance in making sure everything runs smoothly in the lead up to your big day.
8. How do I know if I’ve taken on too much?
Most brides and grooms-to-be start out at the beginning of their wedding planning journeys with hundreds of ideas for their wedding but the key is to be realistic. So if you have planned to DIY all your wedding stationery, decorations and favours for your wedding, but work a 40 hour week and have a young children to look after, when you will find the time to fit in some major DIY sessions? The answer is ‘you probably wont’ so except this and set yourself some realistic goals about what you can and can’t achieve so that you don’t take on more than you can handle.
9.Who shall I choose for my bridal party?
Deciding on bridesmaids or groomsmen can sometimes be tricky but in order to make good choices it’s important to have a clear understanding of what you will expect from them. If for example you would like your maid of honor to plan your hen party, help with planning the wedding and partake in your late night DIY sessions its probably not going to be a good idea to ask your best friend who has a toddler and newborn that demands most if not all of her time. It’s not fair on your or her and could put a lot of strain on your friendship. If however all you would expect is for her ply you with champagne on the morning of your wedding and make sure your make up doesn’t run then ask away. Just have a clear understanding of what you expect from your bridal party and clue them in on what will be expected of them too.
10. Who do I want to invite to my wedding?
Your guest list might be as long as your arm and there are probably hundreds of people you wish you could invite to your wedding but once again you need to ask yourself, is this realistic? How many people can your venue host? How many people can you afford to feed? If your struggling to narrow it down, take a step back, to gain some perspective, take a look at your list and ask yourself who out of all of them do you really want to be there? Then ask yourself out of all of them who do you think should be there? And finally ask yourself out of all of them who would your family want there? Once you have divided your list into three focus on the list of people you really want there as these are the ones you will appreciate the most.
So how did you find the questions? Did you find the answers you needed to start moving forward? Tell us how your planning is going?