5 THINGS YOU LEARN IN THE FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE
Whilst, I wouldn’t go as far as saying I feel like myself and Mr T are already married, I do think that we know each other pretty well and I wouldn’t expect much to change when we do finally decide to tie the knot. But as with most things in life, until it happens you never truly know, so we are tapping newlywed Erin on what she has learnt in the first year of being a wife and the secrets to a happy marriage.
“When you spend nearly 7 years with your other half before you get married, you feel pretty certain that you know each other the best you could–I surely did. Little did I realize that I’ll keep learning about him, myself and us every day I spend with Neil.
One. Nothing feels different, but everything feels more real.
This is hard to describe fully. It’s this weight of magnitude I can feel over our lives. We’ve kept all of our same habits. We still kiss each other before parting ways, we snuggle every night it’s not too hot and we share dinners that we cooked from scratch together, but all of those things feel more significant.
Two. We are definitely better together.
Some can see co-dependency as a negative, but I think they’d be wrong. We are now and forever, a team, partners in crime. We share in our failures and learn how to avoid them in the future. And we celebrate each of our successes as a pair.
Three. Open and honest communication is how we avoid fights.
People have marveled over the cordialness of the relationship Neil and I share. I attribute this to one thing especially, communication. We talk about everything, and I mean everything, even if it’s uncomfortable. Hearing each other’s thoughts and feelings lets us be more empathetic.
Four. The future is a real part of our decisions now.
Before marriage, the future was never measured in any great lengths. Now the choices we make feel life long and we spend a lot of time talking and thinking about if this works into the other plans we have for our future. It’s always exciting to dream about what’s to come and to picture us side by side.
Five. When you love someone this much, you’d do anything for them.
The selfless sacrifices are a many in a happy marriage. We would do any thing to elevate pain, stress or strife from the other’s life, both small and large. When you have someone you trust looking out for your happiness, it’s a blessing to be able to give that back and watch after someone else happiness too.
All photography by Emily Grace Photo
Which leads us to how we got to doing this photo session for our anniversary coming up. I love being in front of the camera and wanted to share that space with my handsome husband. He’s not nearly as fond of being in front of the camera, but he is mighty fond of me, and agreed to the shoot. We do a bunch of exciting things, but generally forget to take a photo of us together. And when we do, it’s usually just a selfie. I love how photography is about capturing a period of your life and giving you something to turn back to and be right back in that moment. With so many exciting things behind us, and so many more to come, I wanted us to capture this love we’ve seen grown into something bigger and more special than we ever imagined.
We knew the heart of Lancaster City would be the perfect place for our shoot. Besides it being our home for almost a decade, we are endlessly fascinated by the way this city grows and all of the thoughtful decisions people make on colors and design for their homes and shops.
All in all, we are beyond happy with how well our session went, and all of the great photos we have to remember this new evolution of our relationship. Another chapter to add to the history of us. Mapping out the future is exciting, but looking through the past is powerful. ”
Do you have any advice for newlyweds? Leave your comments below!