Losing Weight For Your Wedding – Good Vs Bad?
Photography by MATT SOMERVILLE
I have been thinking about writing this post for some time now but have been putting it off as I wasn’t really sure how to go about it. You see, since we started Bespoke Bride we receive a lot of enquiries from companies asking if we would like to promote their latest weight loss solution. Both myself and Jess have always been against the idea of promoting weight loss on Bespoke Bride however it seems to be an issue affecting many of you. In the last few months I have been asking about friends and on Facebook trying to gauge a reaction about wedding weight Loss and all those I asked admitted they were trying to lose weight for their wedding. Now this by no means was a proper scientific test however I get the general consensus that whether we like it or not a lot of people (women especially) are concerned with losing weight for their wedding – so why is it so taboo and why are we not talking about it?
I have to admit I am one of those people that constantly feels the need to lose weight. Everytime I feel that I have got to a point where I am comfortable in my skin, something usually occurs to make me question my size. More often than not I am asked if I am pregnant (honestly this happens more often than you would believe) or I go shopping only to find that absolutely nothing fits me or looks as good as it does on those size 8 models in the magazines. In fact only yesterday I was flicking through a well known wedding magazine to find four pages dedicated to bridal bootcamps, how to get a model body and slimming success stories.
There is so much pressure on people to look good whether you are getting married or not but when planning a wedding the pressure to lose weight is exaggerated that little bit more. You don’t have to look too far to find endless weightloss tips and tricks, we never see anything bigger than a size 8 model gracing pages of magazines, not to mention bridal boutiques having sample dresses no larger than a size 12. I personally have had to face this embarrassment and I know how demeaning it is. So it is not surprising that so many women feel the need to lose weight for their wedding.
I am not saying the wedding industry is to blame for making brides want to lose weight however I do wonder if it would be better and more helpful for magazines and companies to promote being healthy rather than skinny? Of course I must also mention that not all weight loss is bad, I have had friends that saw getting married as the motivation they needed to change to a more healthy lifestyle and to this day are looking and feeling much better for it. Yet I have also seen friends become obsessed with weight loss to a worrying level only to gain all the weight they lost once the wedding was over.
I suppose what I am trying to say is that their are both good and bad points to losing weight for a wedding. If used as motivation for a more healthy lifestyle both for now and the future then I see no harm in it however if your goal is more short term i.e. just for your wedding day, then I would seriously suggest you ask whether it is actually worth it? Why would you want to be anything but yourself on such a special day?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this, are you a bride that lost weight for her wedding? Have you used your wedding as motivation for a more healthy lifestyle? Have you ever felt pressured into losing weight? How did you deal with it?
Lets help others who may be feeling the pressure right now!
Much Bespoke Love