Is Social Media Making Your Wedding Day Less Private?
It’s not often that we accept guest posts but when this one dropped into our inbox we could’t resist posting it because we feel it’s such an interesting topic! With the rise of social media and almost everyone owning iphones or smart phones it’s easy to see how times have changed…
‘It’s fair to say that social media sites have had a massive impact on our lives. Websites such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest have connected us to friends, relatives and strangers wherever they are in the world, allowing us to talk about whatever is on our mind, any time of day.
But all this online networking does have its drawbacks. Everyone knows a story about a job interview that never happened because bosses did not like what they saw on Twitter, or a tale to tell about embarrassing photos on Facebook that come back to haunt in new relationships.
And for couples about to tie the knot social media can also be a minefield of dos and absolutely do not’s.
We all know the superstition about the groom not seeing or speaking to his bride-to-be on the day of the nuptials. Should this include social networking? Probably. Those precious seconds as the bride walks down the aisle should contain an element of awe and surprise. That will be lost if the pair have been tweeting each other, or updating their Facebook status all morning.
And even before that moment the privacy and secrecy of your wedding day could be lost if you spend too much time talking about it online. Yes, friends and family will think your wedding shoes are gorgeous. But posting every hour about your latest wedding plans can get rather dull and the amusement will soon wear off.
Besides, how are you going to impress them on the big day if they’ve been hearing nothing but cakes, favours, table decorations and first dance songs for the past six months?
Your wedding day is the one opportunity to indulge in the art of keeping a secret and throwing a massive party that is all about you. Why would you want the world and its mother knowing every single detail before they even arrive?
If you absolutely have to take to social networking to share your excitement, frustration, worries or purchases for your wedding, try to keep it vague and only reveal details if you absolutely have to. If you’re the type of person who can’t eat breakfast without taking an Instagram photo and sharing it with thousands of followers, then just try to tone it down a bit. Photograph some of the detail in your dress without giving away the style. Instead of revealing what flowers you are having at the church, just take the time to tweet a thank you to the florist. And rather than unveiling your first dance song, drop hints by posting some of the lyrics.
Basically, the trick is to not give too much away while indulging in your need to share. Keep your social media messages short and sweet. Think of them as a teaser trailer for the main event and keep everyone guessing until the very last minute.
Then, when the ring is on your finger and the magic words have been said, tweet and post to your heart’s content. Just make sure to enjoy yourself and relish the moment first – the internet will still be there tomorrow!’
This guest post was contributed by Holly Powell on behalf of Elegant Steps, specialists in wedding and evening shoes.
What Jess thinks about this:
I think it’s fair to say i’m a bit of a phone addict, constantly checking emails and whatsapp or scrolling through the Instagram feed is definitely a few of my habits but having said that, I know when to stop. You see, there are relevant times to be doing these things and they’re normally out of boredom. I feel so strongly about using your phone when you’re having a conversation with someone, it’s just plain rude! I can’t stand it when I’m trying to talk to somebody and they are point blank just reading something on their phone and only listening to me half hearted or when i’m watching a movie and someone by the side of me is texting away, surely you can leave your phone alone for 2 hours? It seems that they are becoming an extension to the human body! So when it comes to your wedding, I say ditch the mobiles for the day and enjoy the moment!! This is directly for the bride and groom, i’m all for guests using their phones on their wedding day! I love the cool apps that have been designed for them like X and X that allows everyone to share their photos, etc and creating a hashtag for the wedding day! But, when it comes to the happy couple, that special moment when the bride is walking down the aisle will be even more special if it’s all a big surprise!
What Emily thinks about this:
Like Jess, I too have become somewhat of a phone addict. I’m constantly checking twitter, facebook and instagram mainly because my job involves social networking a lot of the time. I find myself checking my phone when i’m watching a film, when i’m eating, when I’m meant to be sleeping, the list goes on… I’m trying my hardest to stop doing this, I make a point of putting my phone away when I’m not working mainly because I don’t want to be in work mode all the time, I need to give myself some downtime, just to enjoy the more simple things in life. So when it comes to a wedding I have to say it’s important to give phones and social media a rest. The photos will still be there for you to upload tomorrow, you don’t need to do it on the day.
The real question here is, what do you think about social media on your wedding day?
Much Bespoke Love
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